I just read someone else’s blog post about celebrating being a twosome after recently becoming parents. It was great to see some people don’t lose sight of who they were before the family came along.
I am at the other end of parenthood to this fellow blogger,with my son recently becoming an independent adult and leaving home for university. I look forward to his homecoming for holidays at ends of terms and even, if he wishes to do so, his return to the nest when the course is over in 4 years time. However for now, we are a couple at home, not a threesome. We are discovering what it is like to live once again just considering each other. I am lucky to say we actually still like each other and find plenty to talk about, occasionally even surprising each other with things we never knew about the other. That’s not bad 25 years after we met, after 24 years of living together and 23 years of marriage!
When I think back to the heady first years of our relationship I have wonderful memories. After a few years we were fortunate to become parents, something we yearned for for a long time before it actually happened and the memories of that time and the following 18 years of being parents are wonderful too. I am not kidding myself, there were challenges along the whole journey, times when life seemed really difficult and frustrating, but we have always recovered with love and laughter.
We have enjoyed plenty of time together ‘a deux’ during the years. We can reminisce, we giggle about the past, things we have done, people we have met, places we have been to. But we are talking about the ‘now’, about the future, things we want to do, places we want to visit. We have just returned from a romantic break away, a week of indulgence for the two of us, somewhere we hadn’t been before, meeting new people and we are already talking about the next trips away.
I am onto the next great chapter in life and that is truly cause for celebration.